Sex is the very act that created us, Something that creates life is sure a big deal! Afterall in the world all actions spring from the basic sexual act. Paulo Coelho captures it beautifully in his novel Eleven Minutes, which for those who havent read the book is the time for the average sexual act.
Yes the source of life, joy has been reduced to an industry in todays world which is fine it were just so, but no, a dsyfunctional society has created taboos, dogmas, superstitions and overall confusion.
Psychology embraces sex as life instinct, the Eros, which starts functioning in childhood as a natural curiosity about one’s body and environment, repression of which could pose serious problems to the individual’s psyche. Spirituality talks about celibacy/ brahmacharya or even propogates monogamy through Grihastashram-life of a householder.
Let us examine at an individal level our natural feelings about sex and sexuality, keeping the societal conditioning on hold.
What do we think and feel about celibacy,dating, nudity, marriage, premarital and extramarital sex, contraception,masturbation, monogamy v/s polygamy, sex toys,porn, sex industry, same sex relations, rape and sexual abuse?
I think each of us would have different answers and views, which would speak of our individual personalities and preferences, but who and what is right or wrong?
Maybe a simple rule of the book could be, that which is good for all parties concerned , neither hurts nor exploits all, is not harmful, illegal is right. Besides this simplistic view I guess we don’t have the jurisdiction to dictate or govern the sex and sexuality of others.
The sex act is beautiful as it is the only experience which engages all of or five sense organs, making its impact complete and powerful.The onus lies on us to help integrate sex into our daily and public lives as it is innate and natural, not something to be avoided, brushed under the carpet.